It has been a staple for me even before I was married. When I was in the university, I got to know this one girl through the internet and after I dated her twice I brought this 2 girl friends of mine to her house to assess her and she was so offended, not because of the assessment but because she thought its weird for me to bring 2 girls to her house. For me it was simple. She needs to know who I always hang out with before we embark on a serious relationship.
Now my wife had met the first crush I had in school who I had a love/hate relationship with, who married one of my male school friend after I gave him her phone number. My wife had met this one girl I knew in university who I courted right before I got to know my wife. My wife had even met this one GRO whom I had gone out with a long time ago. These are just a few of the old flames that I have introduced my wife to.
One of my current flame which my wife is ok with...
Most because I still keep in touch with them such as the university girl is a manager at the legal division of a government development company which appoint my firm as their panel. Some are long gone like the GRO.
The point I am trying to make is the need to bury the hatchet and let bygone be bygone especially if you want to have closure in your history. I am a big believer in what is past is past and tomorrow is another day...
as for me, I will see how my partner reacts..
ReplyDeleteif he is not comfortable with the idea, then i will not and try to minimal the contacts with all my ex (which most of them i still do keep in touch)
however, if he is alright with it, I wouldn't mind him to meet them...(they can find a time to bitch about me right? lolx)
a good point to make :D haha
I think you have exactly the right attitude, Kruel. It shows that you're being open and honest with the one you love. And you're right, the past is the past.
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